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Was man sucht, wenn jemand gerade gestorben ist — und was man Monate später immer noch sucht. Ohne Fachjargon geschrieben, an der Quelle geprüft.
Womit anfangen
34 Beiträge, nach den großen Fragen geordnet.
- 5 Beiträge
Vergleichen und wählen
One payment or a yearly one, what is actually included, and the questions to ask before you pay.
- 6 Beiträge
Der QR-Code fürs Grab
What a QR code on a headstone or an urn actually does, what it costs, and where it falls short.
- 23 Beiträge
Gedenken
The ways people keep a memory alive — words, objects, places, dates — and how to choose one that lasts.
Announcing a death on social media
Who has to be told first, what to write, and the mistakes that are hard to undo once posted.
In diesem Beitrag
- 1Tell the close circle first
- 2What to write
- 3What to be careful with
Je nach Moment
In der ersten Woche sucht man anderes als sechs Monate später.
Die ersten Tage
Bescheid geben, organisieren
Für die Trauerfeier
Was sagen, was wählen, was anziehen
Die Monate danach
Sich erinnern, weiterleben
Alle Beiträge
One payment or a yearly one, what is actually included, and the questions to ask before you pay.
Vergleichen und wählenFree or paid online memorial: which to choose
What free memorial pages cost you instead of money, and when paying is actually the cheaper option.
2 minLesen
Vergleichen und wählenHow long does an online memorial stay online
What actually decides the lifespan of a memorial page, and the questions that reveal it before you pay.
2 minLesen
Vergleichen und wählenWhat happens to a memorial QR code if the company shuts down
The failure nobody plans for, how to tell in advance whether a service has, and what to do about it.
2 minLesen- Vergleichen und wählen
Who pays for an online memorial
How families split the cost without it becoming an argument, and who should hold the account.
2 minLesen
What a QR code on a headstone or an urn actually does, what it costs, and where it falls short.
Der QR-Code fürs GrabEngraved or sticker: which QR code to choose
What each one costs, how long each lasts, and the reason a sticker is usually the better bet.
2 minLesen
Der QR-Code fürs GrabHow long a QR code lasts outdoors
What actually destroys a code on a grave — sun, frost, dirt — and what to look for so it survives.
2 minLesen
Der QR-Code fürs GrabPutting a QR code on a headstone
Where to fix it, what it holds up to, and who you need to ask first.
2 minLesen
Der QR-Code fürs GrabA QR code on an urn
Why an urn is the case where a code earns its place, where to fix it, and what to do about a niche.
2 minLesen
Der QR-Code fürs GrabWhat someone sees when they scan the QR code
What actually opens on the phone of a visitor who scans a memorial code, and who gets to see what.
2 minLesen
The ways people keep a memory alive — words, objects, places, dates — and how to choose one that lasts.
- Gedenken
Announcing a death on social media
Who has to be told first, what to write, and the mistakes that are hard to undo once posted.
2 minLesen 
GedenkenThe anniversary of a death: what to say and what to do
Why the day is harder than people expect, what to send, and what families do to mark it.
2 minLesen
GedenkenThe funeral guest book: what it is really for
Why the book of condolences matters more than families expect, and how to get something out of it.
2 minLesen
GedenkenChoosing a poem for a funeral
How to pick a reading that fits the person, with public-domain poems you can use in full.
2 minLesen
GedenkenChoosing music for a funeral
How many pieces you need, where they go, and how to choose without the song becoming unbearable.
2 minLesen
GedenkenThank-you notes after a funeral
Who to write to, when, and three short templates that do not sound like a form letter.
2 minLesen
GedenkenHow to write a eulogy
A method that works when you cannot think, how long it should run, and how to get through it on the day.
2 minLesen
GedenkenHow to write an obituary
What an obituary has to contain, what it costs to publish, and how to write one that reads like a person.
2 minLesen
GedenkenLosing your husband or wife: the first months
What the first year actually looks like, what helps, and the decisions worth postponing.
3 minLesen
GedenkenPaying your respects when you cannot be there
What to do when distance, work or health keeps you from the funeral — and how to make absence count.
2 minLesen
GedenkenWhere to go when there is no grave
What to do when ashes were scattered, the grave is far away, or there is no place at all.
2 minLesen
GedenkenSpeaking at the funeral of a friend or colleague
What to say when you are not family — the register, the length, and the thing only you can give.
2 minLesen
GedenkenTelling a child that someone has died
The words to use at each age, why euphemisms backfire, and what to do about the funeral.
2 minLesen
GedenkenWriting a tribute to a brother or a sister
What makes a sibling tribute different, and how to write one when the history is long and mixed.
2 minLesen
GedenkenWriting a tribute to a grandmother
How to write about a grandmother without turning her into a type, with examples of different lengths.
2 minLesen
GedenkenWhat to do with a loved one's belongings
When to start, how to sort without regret, and what to do with the things nobody can throw away.
2 minLesen
GedenkenWhat to put on a headstone
How much text actually fits, how to choose an epitaph, and the decisions that cannot be undone.
2 minLesen
GedenkenWhat to say at your father's funeral
Speaking about a father when the relationship was undemonstrative, complicated, or both.
2 minLesen
GedenkenWhat to say at your mother's funeral
How to speak about a mother without slipping into platitudes, with a structure and worked examples.
2 minLesen
GedenkenWhat to say to someone who has just lost someone
The sentences that help, the ones that do harm, and why saying nothing is the worst of the options.
2 minLesen
GedenkenWhat to wear to a funeral
The safe answer, what changes by country and faith, and what to do when the family asks for color.
2 minLesen
GedenkenWhat to write in a sympathy card
Short messages that do not sound hollow, plus what to do when you barely knew the person.
2 minLesen