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ガイド34件を、大きな問いごとにまとめました。
- ガイド5件
比べて選ぶ
One payment or a yearly one, what is actually included, and the questions to ask before you pay.
- ガイド6件
お墓のQRコード
What a QR code on a headstone or an urn actually does, what it costs, and where it falls short.
- ガイド23件
追悼のしかた
The ways people keep a memory alive — words, objects, places, dates — and how to choose one that lasts.
Announcing a death on social media
Who has to be told first, what to write, and the mistakes that are hard to undo once posted.
このガイドの内容
- 1Tell the close circle first
- 2What to write
- 3What to be careful with
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すべてのガイド
One payment or a yearly one, what is actually included, and the questions to ask before you pay.
比べて選ぶFree or paid online memorial: which to choose
What free memorial pages cost you instead of money, and when paying is actually the cheaper option.
2 min読む
比べて選ぶHow long does an online memorial stay online
What actually decides the lifespan of a memorial page, and the questions that reveal it before you pay.
2 min読む
比べて選ぶWhat happens to a memorial QR code if the company shuts down
The failure nobody plans for, how to tell in advance whether a service has, and what to do about it.
2 min読む- 比べて選ぶ
Who pays for an online memorial
How families split the cost without it becoming an argument, and who should hold the account.
2 min読む
What a QR code on a headstone or an urn actually does, what it costs, and where it falls short.
お墓のQRコードEngraved or sticker: which QR code to choose
What each one costs, how long each lasts, and the reason a sticker is usually the better bet.
2 min読む
お墓のQRコードHow long a QR code lasts outdoors
What actually destroys a code on a grave — sun, frost, dirt — and what to look for so it survives.
2 min読む
お墓のQRコードPutting a QR code on a headstone
Where to fix it, what it holds up to, and who you need to ask first.
2 min読む
お墓のQRコードA QR code on an urn
Why an urn is the case where a code earns its place, where to fix it, and what to do about a niche.
2 min読む
お墓のQRコードWhat someone sees when they scan the QR code
What actually opens on the phone of a visitor who scans a memorial code, and who gets to see what.
2 min読む
The ways people keep a memory alive — words, objects, places, dates — and how to choose one that lasts.
- 追悼のしかた
Announcing a death on social media
Who has to be told first, what to write, and the mistakes that are hard to undo once posted.
2 min読む 
追悼のしかたThe anniversary of a death: what to say and what to do
Why the day is harder than people expect, what to send, and what families do to mark it.
2 min読む
追悼のしかたThe funeral guest book: what it is really for
Why the book of condolences matters more than families expect, and how to get something out of it.
2 min読む
追悼のしかたChoosing a poem for a funeral
How to pick a reading that fits the person, with public-domain poems you can use in full.
2 min読む
追悼のしかたChoosing music for a funeral
How many pieces you need, where they go, and how to choose without the song becoming unbearable.
2 min読む
追悼のしかたThank-you notes after a funeral
Who to write to, when, and three short templates that do not sound like a form letter.
2 min読む
追悼のしかたHow to write a eulogy
A method that works when you cannot think, how long it should run, and how to get through it on the day.
2 min読む
追悼のしかたHow to write an obituary
What an obituary has to contain, what it costs to publish, and how to write one that reads like a person.
2 min読む
追悼のしかたLosing your husband or wife: the first months
What the first year actually looks like, what helps, and the decisions worth postponing.
3 min読む
追悼のしかたPaying your respects when you cannot be there
What to do when distance, work or health keeps you from the funeral — and how to make absence count.
2 min読む
追悼のしかたWhere to go when there is no grave
What to do when ashes were scattered, the grave is far away, or there is no place at all.
2 min読む
追悼のしかたSpeaking at the funeral of a friend or colleague
What to say when you are not family — the register, the length, and the thing only you can give.
2 min読む
追悼のしかたTelling a child that someone has died
The words to use at each age, why euphemisms backfire, and what to do about the funeral.
2 min読む
追悼のしかたWriting a tribute to a brother or a sister
What makes a sibling tribute different, and how to write one when the history is long and mixed.
2 min読む
追悼のしかたWriting a tribute to a grandmother
How to write about a grandmother without turning her into a type, with examples of different lengths.
2 min読む
追悼のしかたWhat to do with a loved one's belongings
When to start, how to sort without regret, and what to do with the things nobody can throw away.
2 min読む
追悼のしかたWhat to put on a headstone
How much text actually fits, how to choose an epitaph, and the decisions that cannot be undone.
2 min読む
追悼のしかたWhat to say at your father's funeral
Speaking about a father when the relationship was undemonstrative, complicated, or both.
2 min読む
追悼のしかたWhat to say at your mother's funeral
How to speak about a mother without slipping into platitudes, with a structure and worked examples.
2 min読む
追悼のしかたWhat to say to someone who has just lost someone
The sentences that help, the ones that do harm, and why saying nothing is the worst of the options.
2 min読む
追悼のしかたWhat to wear to a funeral
The safe answer, what changes by country and faith, and what to do when the family asks for color.
2 min読む
追悼のしかたWhat to write in a sympathy card
Short messages that do not sound hollow, plus what to do when you barely knew the person.
2 min読む